Success Strategy #3:Don’t let ‘em steal your joy! April 27, 2009

Don't Let 'Em Steal Your Joys! T. Redfern

 

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

Author Kent Keith (source RecoveryEmporium.com)

 

My grandmother used to always say “Don’t let ‘em steal your joy” and that phrase has kept me positive and moving many days when it seemed like  someone really was trying to steal my joy.  It reminds me of a major life lesson No one can take from you what you are not willing to give away.

As the wonderful words of wisdom above have detailed no matter what you do there will always be someone somewhere who may be unhappy with it, may not like you for it, may want to tear it down, and may want to cause you harm. Don’t let them steal your joy, do what Allah swt has inspired you to do and do it to best of your capabilities keeping in mind it was never about them anyway.  

Success Strategy #3- Don’t let them steal your joy! Strive to do good for the sake of Allah and Success will be yours!

Commit to a lifetime of learning!

Teacher~Tamara

Be Committed:Secrets to Success Strategy#2 April 16, 2009

Roqaya Al Gassra

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

 

 Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.

 

 Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.
- Author unknown

 

 

My entire life it seems has been framed by this poem, as I am typing this post I just remembered one of the first places I’d read it was in my childhood living room over two decades ago! I do believe my mother was my first self-help guru! MashaAllah, I know she has always been a source of inspiration.
So what’s the big deal behind this not quitting thing anyway? Why is it so important? It’s all about commitment. Commitment is what’s going to keep you at it when, not if the going gets tough. Commitment is… knowing that your goal or desired result is worth the effort and being faithful enough to dedicate yourself to seeing it through.

As you are coming to know, Teacher Tamara loves a good equation! (I really enjoyed algebra in school) so here is our commitment breakdown.

Knowledge+Effort+Faith=Commitment.

To really get a good understanding of what we are talking about here we need to clarify our own working definition of each term.
1. Knowledge of what you want-ex. Your goal
2. Exerting the required effort to reach completion- ex. Your actions
3. Being faithful believing that your goal will be achieved- ex. Seeing yourself reaching your goal

~Working it out ~Going the extra mile ~Raising the bar ~Pushing the limits ~Reaching for the stars

BEING COMMITTED to your goal is essential to achieve success in any endeavor. Like the athletes who push father and strive harder to do their personal best in the Olympics, we are our own measuring stick. We can only truly compete and win against ourselves (jihad an nafs–the struggle of the self). True struggle and true success reside in the same place – inside ourselves.

 
What are your thoughts on commitment and success?

 

Roqaya Al-Gassra

 A  picture is worth a thousand words…

 

Commit to a lifetime of learning!
Teacher~Tamara

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Secrets to Success Mini-Series April 4, 2009

Hidden Beauty by Tamara L. Redfern

 

 SubhanAllah,we plan and Allah plans and surely He is the best of planners.  As Allah would manifest for the month of April, the SIS series will be postponed. InshaAllah we will return in March with a great interview with an intriguing sister.

  MashaAllah, so far there has been lots of positive feedback on the SIS series.  In additon there have been questions on the key to achieving personal successes.  InshaAllah for the month of April in the place of a featured sister, I will run a Secrets to Success mini-series. 

 The aim of this mini-series is to cover several of the top principles of success and to open discussion in the area of achieving personal success by offering real-life examples and solutions.  That  is where you the reader comes in,  you can have your very own personal questions addressed simply by clicking here and typing in your question. Of course any personal details will remain confidential.

InshaAllah throughout the month I will choose the most often repeated themes and issues and offer practical advice for working through the situation.  The authors of the selected questions will be given an opportunity for a free coaching session at SisterShine LifeCoaching.

We will begin the mini-series with DEFINING PERSONAL SUCCESS.  The best definition for success is one that comes from within you.  Only you can truly judge if your goals and aspirations are enough. Other people looking at your life can only judge by their own paradigm or concept of success.  As we grow and mature experiencing more of life, we will go through several of our own beliefs and definitions of success.

Often our concept of success has changed yet we have not reconciled that within ourselves.  Take a few minutes and ask yourself  the following questions to see how you definition of personal success may have changed over the years.

1. Am I living the life I had planned to live 10 yrs ago?
2. How is my life different than I thought it would be?
3. Am I satisfied with what I currently am doing with my life?
4. What do I want to be doing with my life?
5. What would I be doing right now if I had nothing to limit me?

Please share your answers in the comments or reply here  and we can get the ball rolling!

Commit to a lifetime of learning! 

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